Born September 10, 1992. Custom ordered looks from his mom. A baby, who, while the rest of the babies in the nursery were sleeping, was just wide eyed and appeared to be ready to take everything in.
This isn’t an exaggeration. Paul didn’t sleep a lot as a baby, nor did he cry a lot. When he was mad, you knew it because he was PISSED OFF. But for the most part, through childhood, as long as you told him what was going on and he thought it made sense, he’d say “okay”. He was the ultimate team player- almost too much. He was the guy who had a lot to say, but stood back to allow others to be heard. That was his MO. Paul listened. And he felt. And he acted on his beliefs.
This blog is intended to honor my son’s short life, leave a legacy for his daughters, and to help a community heal and learn about the illness that ultimately took his life. I will share his music and his writings each week. And with the permission of those who have already shared, I will share words and writings from friends and family that reached out to us since his death.
You are invited to share as well.
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Pauly Starfox Birthday Bash IV: September 19 Mackey’s Hideout! More to Come!
From Rob Napholz: Jeff From Upstairs is a project started by my brother Paul. It was the combination of him and his acoustic guitar that delivered a thunderous blow of dynamics, but he always welcomed the opportunity to play these songs with a full band. Some of these songs were recorded and produced with full… Read more
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PaulyStarfox Birthday Bash IV: September 19 at Mackey’s Hideout
Jeff From Upstairs is a project started by my brother Paul. It was the combination of him and his acoustic guitar that delivered a thunderous blow of dynamics, but he always welcomed the opportunity to play these songs with a full band. Some of these songs were recorded and produced with full instrumentation by our… Read more
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Peace and Love – Paul’s Dead
Paul’s Dead is born out of a love for a friend who gave us the love of the music we are playing for you today. The Grateful Dead. Paul always said they were the greatest American band and they are. Paul loved this music and so do we, and we want to share with you… Read more
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Paul’s remembered by Mr. Zeiger, 8th grade science teacher
Dear Mrs. Napholz, I have been wanting to connect with you and family ever since I heard of Paul’s death. Paul was in my 8th grade science class at Lundahl. Maybe you would consider this a brief parent conference. “Mrs. Napholz, I so enjoy having Paul in my class. He is ready to learn every day.… Read more
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Blue Christmas 2023-Paul’s Mom
Funny that I was in a meeting this week with a person in long term recovery who said that if something is making him uncomfortable, he’s pretty sure he needs to lean into it. I was at that moment considering telling Lisa that I couldn’t do this. When this event was brought up to me… Read more
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Sadie’s 8th Birthday
November 12, 2022 2 days ago, it was Sadie Evelyn Marie Napholz’s 8th birthday. Although, her name has been legally changed to Costillo since she was 3, she will always be a Napholz to me – just like her mom, Amanda, will always be a Napholz even though her name was never legally changed. Napholz… Read more
